I recently thought of a question that how to enjoy life alone without friends?- because I had to visit Europe, recently, alone and on my own, on a trip and I was alone there the whole time.
First I thought that it will be boring but it was really not. I mean I was away from everyone all alone and enjoying by myself.
Just being myself completely alone! By the way here are some pictures that I took. They don’t have me in them though.
It was a fun trip, I made this video too, you may check it out.
The point is I now get it I know how it feels, to be alone and be perfectly alright with it. Sadly, being alone is thought of as a negative thing and people assume that a person sitting alone is to be felt pity for. I mean, how can someone being alone be felt sorry for?
If you haven’t ever been in love with your loneliness, I feel sorry for you. Yes, I do.
I mean don’t you get irritated with all that gossip of whether she looked hot or not or about sex all the time?
Don’t you hate that negativity prying your lives sometimes? I mean it’s fine to hang out. I am not saying lock yourselves, I’m just saying being a little alone is cool.
We have these two words which make you understand a person in social terms: Extrovert and Introvert.
But let’s just say that this process is a little more complex than these two simple words.
Extrovert mean outgoing ( they are the people who enjoy other companies and don’t like being alone) and Introvert means the opposite (they like to be alone mostly).
A person can be extrovert and introvert both. How? They can like being alone sometimes and at days they might want to hang out and have fun and that’s all.
There are so many people whom I know that enjoy being all out with friends, not being alone and equally cherish the time while they sit at their homes, enjoying some music, playing guitar, writing articles, watching comedy; in all, they like being at home also.
Social interaction is termed as a need to survive in this life. But to be honest, being alone is also important. You seriously cannot be happy all the time. So alone time is important
If you cherish the “alone time”, then you can probably understand the signs below.
They tell you that you are okay with being alone and it doesn’t make you feel sorry for yourself. And if that is, clap your hands with glee or if you are happy and you know it and you really wanna show it,
Because you really don’t need this fake world to make you happy all the time. And if you don’t want anyone to make you happy and you like being alone; you are actually living good.
So kudos to that!
No fear of who you really are:
All the people are gone and you can now be your very own self.
Or are you faking around while you are alone also?
Science tells us that everybody fakes a little around people and not when they are completely themselves. I mean they are only their own selves when they are alone.
Being alone allows you to meet yourself and like who you are. If your social life has disturbed your personality to an extent where you fake in loneliness as well, then you aren’t happy being alone. Being okay with whom you are and the way you are while you are alone makes you know that you are okay with being alone.
Loving Yourself is what you Know:
Anyhow being yourself boosts the self-independence in you and you know that your alone time is somewhat going to make changes in your personality as well.
You get to know about the things which make you feel good and thus you start loving yourself and doing what makes you happy.
Isn’t that great? A lot of people call that selfishness but as I mentioned earlier in a lot of articles that self-love isn’t being selfish; so just remember that and keep on rocking.
Being Alone is Important:
Why do we only stress on socializing and how should we socialize? Why doesn’t anyone tell us that sitting alone or jogging alone and speculating your life is also essential?
And all the stuff that we do while we are young; depending on people for our happiness. That is because we are tamed to be social and rely on each other. Dependency and unity are two different things, guys.
The time you spend alone builds you as a person inside out. You get to know your weaknesses and strengths and you also learn how to handle different situations of your life, on your own.
People who seek the attention of others to make their life complete and full aren’t living in reality. Someone needs to tell them that they really don’t have to.
Are you playing with your blocks (like we did while we were kids)…
Not every block fits in with another right?
So how do you expect people to fit in exactly in your life, the way you want them to? This is what people who like being alone, understand and act upon as well.
They have some real passions which keep them diverted like this kid in the picture, trying to pretend that he can play guitar but is only here for the picture.
Anyways passions are what keep them distracted and make them not care about the world around them. They fill the gaps with their passion and by working on it.
They have no time for the drama.
Have you heard that quote? The fewer people you chill with, the less bullshit you deal with!
The desire for Improving One Self:
When you spend time alone, you understand your flaws and what amendments you need to make within yourself. Thus you are actually willing to search for different ways that can make you a better version of yourself.
If you are constantly surrounding yourself with people, you astray from whom you actually are. The time you spend alone makes a lot of room in that “social head” of yours and you see what improvements you can bring within yourself.
But hey, good improvements they are. If you are planning to get more evil, ruder and the more of everything on the wrong side, you aren’t being alone in a good way.
Being alone can be really philosophical right?
I can get the philosophy vibes getting in my head.
Well, coming to the conclusion guys.
There is always something that makes us change in a good or bad way. A lot of people starts cherishing their alone time more and more with the passage of time and that is perfectly alright.
If you have the above-mentioned signs in you, being alone is great for you. Just make sure that you grow as a kinder, better and more humane version of yourself rather than an evil one.
Gathering motivation from it is what makes loneliness cherish-able.